（09）[English] A hedge between keeps friendship green

A hedge between keeps friendship green
hedge,树篱，篱笆，回避，避免.
全句：君子之交淡如水

应用：
Friendship cannot stand always on one side. [谚]友谊是双方的事。
a green fruit 未熟的水果
a green old age老当益壮
a green wound 新伤口
a boy green to his job 工作无经验的小伙子
green timber 未干的木材
a green face 苍白[发青]的脸

-----引自NaturalNews--------------
All books on friendships and relationships emphasize that to be successful in life, it is vital to love your self. If we see only our faults, then we subconsciously expect others to see only our faults. Consequently we are always waiting to be rejected. You are unique, not a carbon copy of anyone else. There is absolutely no need to measure your self against others.
One of the most important features of beginning a friendship is to not be scared. There is a tendency to make assumptions on what another person may be thinking. A guy may think, "I'd like to dance with that lovely lady, but I am not good looking enough and she is going to say no, I'm sure". Meantime she is thinking, "I wish that hunky guy over there would ask me to dance!" Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you don't ask, you don't get! The absolute worse thing that can possibly happen is a lady says no. Relationship or friendship can be a numbers game, the next lady will say yes!
People who are not secure in their ability to make friends are usually scared of what other people are thinking. Who really cares what other people think? Nobody is perfect and if someone doesn't seem to like you, then it's their problem, not yours. Talk to someone else!
Always remember that in the beginning of a friendship everyone is on his or her best behavior. Give everything a little time. There are occasions when an instant friendship occurs but mostly it takes time to develop. Don't be all over the other person at first; just take it easy as you get to know each other.
We cannot expect to go through life without having a personality clash with someone. Often people are frightened of upsetting someone else in case they lose the friendship. If the other party cannot accept honesty and communication then they are not much of a friend! Either that or they are manipulating you in some way and you don't need that!
You cannot have an argument if only one person argues. Think about that, we all have different points of view and good friends agree to disagree and get on with their lives. It is most important when you have a good friend not to play games or try to change them. Unfortunately some people tend to do this. Why change what is working? It is a quick way to end the relationship.

True friendship consists of rejoicing in the other person's good fortunes, offering cheer in times of distress, sympathy in adversity, advice during trouble, and material help in times of real need. True friendship is broad and inclusive.

Value a friendship, for it is an expression of the flower of true love. If you hold a flower in your hand, how can you crush it?

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How to keep friendship?
There are Four points:
First: Stay true never hesitate, Treating your friends Heart to heart;
Second: Keep fresh and keep secrets, both yours and your friends';
Third: Don't borrow money from your friends and don't lend out your money to them too(Money is the root of all evil);
The last: More doing, more listen, less speaking, don't be a hindsight(don't give a belated advice/effort, Don't beat dead horse).


Idioms about this!
the slang[俚语] and the proverb[谚语].Slang:
apple－polish 拍马屁
use your noodle 用用你的脑袋
cats and dogs 倾盆大雨; 女生之间吵架
It's really raining cats and dogs.
beat dead horse 马后炮
bird-head 愚蠢的人
look black 形式发展不好
show a yellow streak 神经发作
be in a blue funk 闷闷不乐
Proverb :
What is lost in the hundred will be found in the shire.失之东隅，收之桑榆。
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.不入虎穴，焉得虎子。
Like father, like son.有其父，必有其子。
Mouth and heart should never part.心口如一。
God helps those who help themselves.天助自助者。